“The gifts, the holidays, the dinners, the dresses and all the wooing appeal to youngsters instantly. But as you grow older and get more mature, you realise that all those gifts and presents on Valentine’s Day are immaterial. You stop attaching your emotions to materialistic things,” says Monika Trivedi, a freelance journalist and activist. “As long as you can bask in the warmth, love and care of your lover/ spouse, even a sparkling, priceless solitaire ring that he may have gifted you on your last Valentine will not match up with the glow and passion that you feel from within,” she adds.
The celebrations and greetings on V-Day began as a Hallmark initiative. “However, today it is over commercialised. You don’t need expensive gifts to woo your partner. A dinner or a movie can make you equally happy,” quips Monika. “Although I would still say that it is fun to celebrate V-Day, what with our stressful lives and hectic schedules not even giving us a breather! Sometimes you can take the liberty of indulging yourself in such momentary pleasures,” says she.
Having said that, V-Day celebrations have taken a backseat for Monika for the past few years. “Earlier my hubby made sure that he got a gift for me on the eve of every Valentine,” says she. “Although he isn’t a diehard romantic! (she tells me on the sly, when I ask her to recall her memorable gifts.) I think I was the one to give him more memorable gifts. A surprise holiday in Goa was an unforgettable moment for him. I called his secretary, cancelled his appointments and handed him the air tickets,” recalls Monika, who is now happily married for 22 years. However, she’s quick to point out that the term ‘complete happiness’ does not exist in her dictionary. “Happiness is a relative concept. As long as you are loved unconditionally and completely cared for, and as long as you can depend on someone 100 per cent, you will be happy,” says she. “Earlier, I used to put lipstick and perfume and look my best when my hubby came back home from work. But as the years passed by, I learnt to be my real self and so did he,” adds she. That’s what years of togetherness (and love) does to you!
Source: sakaaltimes.com/SakaalTimesBeta/20100213/5666471360055301007.htm
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